This is a question I guess every Indian esp. women must have received from their female friends outside India who are curious to see the country but with a population of 1.3 billion is it even possible to give one answer? There is nothing that is common across the country – no language, color, clothes, culture, nothing.

So what is the purpose of this post? To make a woman aware of the extent of sexual harassment esp. solo women travelers and share some tips as a local, also part of solo women travelers community, who has traveled within India and to other countries on how to reduce the risk of being sexually harassed in India.

Like in any other country some parts of India are more dangerous than the other or say some are safer than the other. Then where do all these insecurities about traveling in India come from? Some would say Media’s portrayal of the country. But that’s not the complete truth. India in my experience is a country where the probability of a woman getting sexually harassed is way more than any other country I have traveled to. It is sad when people try to underplay the safety situation in India as it can put someone’s life in real danger. The mental trauma that comes with street harassment is unfathomable by someone who has not experienced it.

What kind of harassment are we talking about?

I’m not getting into numbers on purpose because the numbers mostly talk about the rape cases in India and I’m not even getting there. Most of the other sexual harassment cases go unreported. Some very common ones in India – groping, pinching, Masturbating in Public, passing disgusting remarks on the streets, so on and so forth.  I have faced all of these more than once and I personally don’t know any woman who hasn’t faced at least one of these. From what I gather, most women across the world have faced sexual harassment in some form or the other so what is the fuss again?

  • The probability of it happening in India
  • The frequency with which it happens
  • The situations where it can happen

I have met women from various countries who tell me how they have been harassed in clubs in countries conventionally considered safe. Now, the difference is, you can go to a busy club, get drunk, get back home by yourself and expect everything to be fine. I don’t know very many Indian girls who would even consider going to a club alone which is jam-packed with Indian men and go back home alone drunk. That is a recipe for disaster here. An adventure sport I’m never trying.

Scenarios with a high probability of being harassed:

  • Public transport like a tuktuk
  • Any local transport with high percentage of men like Mumbai locals or Delhi Metro. There are ladies compartment in these trains for safety reasons
  • Exhibitions with free entry
  • Sitting next to a man on a bus
  • Crowded dance floors

Basically, anywhere a man can get away with it.

Do I still recommend India to travel as a solo women traveler?

Yes. But of course, it’s you who has to decide.

Although I would say if you have a choice to travel with a male partner then do that. It would make your life much simpler. But don’t let lack of company be a reason to put it down.

India is a blast of cultures, colors, beautiful places, delicious food, and a lot more. Above everything, it is backpackers heaven. There are things to serve every budget. It might not be the cleanest but at least there are options.

  • There are buses, trains, budget airlines to travel with
  • Hostel culture is really picking up everywhere so there are budget places to stay
  • Street food is the absolute best in India and is as cheap as Rs. 50 for a meal (less than a dollar)

The one thing that you would have to compromise on would be your freedom. You would have to watch your step, be alert of your surroundings at all times.

Things you can do to travel more safely in India:

Selfies:

In some places, there is a big selfie culture which is a random person/people would come up to you and ask for selfies. There are three broad ways to deal with it

  • Agree with it and tirelessly pose for pictures. Remember when one person gets a selfie a lot more would find the courage to come up to you and ask for a picture as well
  • Politely decline
  • Very creative way – ask for money in return for a picture. I know someone who did that and earned some money. They charged Rs. 100 for each picture.

Note: Even if you’re agreeing to get pictures to make sure you ask them to maintain distance. I know of a woman who was groped and molested by strangers in the pretext of getting a picture.

Appearance:
  • Carry a scarf around your neck. Cleavage can attract a lot of attention.
  • Cover yourself in a sarong as soon as you get out of the ocean.
  • Sleeveless is fine
  • Wedding ring means nothing to most Indians. Toe rings, however, mean you’re definitely married. So if you want to travel around like a married woman then toe rings are the way to go. I did meet a woman who was traveling like that but it didn’t help her much.
Vehicles:
  • Get a picture of the number plate if you’re getting into a regular vehicle
  • Be on the phone when getting inside your uber or Ola
  • If you take a long distance bus, either book a single seat or book one reserved for women (Redbus website shows the women’s seat in red)
  • Carry your bag on the front. Not only does it save it from pickpockets but also saves one from being groped
General (I follow these in any country I travel to):
  • Try to reach back at your residence before sunset
  • If you’re going out late in the evening, try to go out with male companions
  • Don’t walk back alone when drunk even if the hostel is a block away

The idea of this post is not to spread fear about the country but making travelers aware of what threats are lurking in the corner here. I don’t know any better way to do that. 

Do you have any safety tips for solo women who wish to travel to India by themselves?

Manisha Singh

I'm an HR (IT) Consultant by profession who loves traveling to keep from getting caught up in the monotony of regular life. I quit my job in Oct 2016 to take a career break. I'm using my time to travel around South America. When not traveling I love spending time volunteering for various activities ranging from Art to corporate citizenship. I love Running (5k mostly), reading (interest keeps varying here), playing TT (something I picked up recently), and open to just about any new experience.

22 Comments

Rinu Bejoy · April 15, 2018 at 10:38

Good work. Even i have written a similar post on plight of indian women. Please check it out at http://www.rinubejoy97.wordpress.com/

Ana Vukosavljevic · March 28, 2018 at 12:34

I didn’t know it’s not that safe in India! I’m a bit scared now, but I would still love to visit it! It’s good to know all of these things, it’s better to be aware than to live in a lie.

    Manisha Singh · March 30, 2018 at 07:41

    Oh no, I don’t intend to scare anyone. I don’t know how to do this without discouraging anyone from traveling here.

blogthirtyminusone · March 26, 2018 at 17:51

I would have never thought that traveling to India could expose one to some of the things you have shared there. Though, I can imagine that India is not the only place where these type of things happen. Hopefully posts like yours bring awareness to the issue and action to fix it.
Nailil
http://www.thirtyminusone.com

    Manisha Singh · March 27, 2018 at 09:51

    We can only hope and do our part which is raising awareness.

Preet@thevelvetlife · March 26, 2018 at 02:25

You have compiled some good points and tips for solo female travelers. I agree with most of them, have spent almost all my life except the last 5 years in India, I understand that being alert, active, and aware is the best thing to do.

    Manisha Singh · March 26, 2018 at 05:52

    Thank you for the read.
    The first step towards change is accepting there’s a problem and I’m glad more and more people are doing that now.

Esme Sy · March 25, 2018 at 23:45

I’d like to share this because this isn’t limited only to India, unfortunately there are a lot of unreported incidents around the world as well and your tips for travelling are going to be very useful.

    Manisha Singh · March 26, 2018 at 05:51

    Very rightly pointed out. I was told by a friend while traveling that he himself knew of at least two girls who had never reported a sexual crime.
    But, from my experience patriarchal countries have it a little more difficult for women in general.

Elizabeth O · March 25, 2018 at 11:20

This is a really helpful post to women travelling solo to India. Unfortunately these things do happen so being prepared is a good thing.

    Manisha Singh · March 25, 2018 at 11:38

    True, it’s always best to be prepared for the kind of issues we might face in a new country.

Ithfifi Williams / IthinityBeauty · March 24, 2018 at 19:07

This was so insightful and I am glad you wrote it in such an honest way, I am sure this will be really helpful to any female travellers planning on going it alone. I guess every country has its issues and its always great to be as clued up as possible when going away.

    Manisha Singh · March 25, 2018 at 11:37

    You’re very right in saying, every country has it’s own problems. We should be aware of what we’re getting ourselves into and it becomes difficult when the people overlook the issues in the name of patriotism.

Terri Ramsey Beavers · March 24, 2018 at 14:05

I usually travel alone with my service dog. I would love to visit India one day but I have heard it might not be the best place for me to visit. Thank you for your honest thoughts on traveling here as a woman and making me aware of the risks that could happen.

    Manisha Singh · March 25, 2018 at 11:36

    I’m glad it helped. Your post makes me wonder how pet friendly traveling in India really is? I don’t know very many people who travel with their pet.

Indu Indra · March 24, 2018 at 09:57

This is significant post from female traveler point of view. And more so when travel solo. Being an Indian woman myself and being traveled to each part of India, apart from extensive global travels. And being solo traveler, I would just like to say to solo women travelers that be more aware and be little careful.

Chastity · March 23, 2018 at 20:58

I didn’t realized India would be that type of place. I would never travel (on a trip like this) alone I would love to enjoy the experience with someone. I am glad you were able to handle yourself while there. I am not that strong.

    Manisha Singh · March 24, 2018 at 10:00

    As an Indian I think I know the demons slightly better but yeah it’s never enough.

Avneesh Saxena · January 21, 2018 at 18:21

It’s been a 10 days u posted this blog. I couldn’t find any comment. Usually for your blogs people will try to ask for advices for the the travel experience your personality represents.
Was wondering that Do Indian women actually travel alone in India.
Its sad to see the general condition of social order which we(men) have developed..

    Manisha Singh · January 25, 2018 at 08:31

    To be honest, I barely meet Indian women traveling alone. Never met anyone outside India. But there are many who are doing so. I keep coming across articles with some names.
    It truly is sad that most women wouldn’t explore their own country because of the safety concerns. But acknowledging and accepting would be the first step towards change.

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